Getting beat means we did everything we could do, the opponent was just better
Getting beat by someone or a team that is better than you can be tough to swallow, especially in a fairly close matchup, but let’s keep in mind that it is also a natural part of the learning process. In competition and in life, sometimes we win and sometimes we learn. Sometimes, the competition was simply better than you were that day. Albeit, in sports, academics, or any other competitive field, the possibility of getting beat is always there. This is why it is so important to learn to accept defeat, use it as motivation, and to continue working to improve your own skills.
Instead of getting discouraged, take time to analyze what the other person or team did better than you. Did they have better technique, more experience, or a better strategy? Use this information to identify areas where you can work to improve and develop a plan to work on those skills
Losing means we didn’t own up with a standard of excellence
First off, it’s important to note that losing does not define your worth or ability. Every individual or team has its strengths and weaknesses and it’s okay to lose sometimes. What’s most important to assess is how we lost. Did we lose because we were inconsistent, because we lost focus, or because we didn’t capitalize on opportunities? Whenever you experience loss consistently, there is an absence of learning. You can’t start to win until you can learn to keep from losing. You’re not always going to show up at your best and everyone has off days, but when you lose, use the experience as an opportunity to learn, grow, and keep pushing to improve.
We NEVER want to lose, but we can handle being beat.
In every competition, there should be a desire to win, not just to participate. Has anyone ever told you that you’re just going through the motions? It’s that type of mindless and effortless approach that truly separates competitors from participants. Competitors show up with intent and purpose. Participants show up half hearted and irrelevant. Losing is a natural part of life and competition, and it’s not always easy to accept because we know we could have tried harder and done better. Getting beat with grace and dignity, knowing that you gave it your best and missed the mark allows you to accept defeat with your head held high. Next time you find yourself on the wrong side of a competition, remember to congratulate your opponent, reflect on your own performance, and focus on the aspects that you can learn from the experience.